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Prom?

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October 24th, 2012 by Student14 (Gahanna, Ohio)

When I was a junior in high school, I had a crush on one of my close girl friends. She was very smart, funny, and we had been friends for a while. After starting to talk to her more and flirting with her, I couldn’t hide my true feelings any longer. I asked her out to prom to go as “just friends” so that neither of us would go dateless and we could spend the night together and have fun. She told me that she did not think that it was a good idea because she did not want to give others the wrong impression of us and did not want to lead me on. I ended up telling her how I really felt about her and my feelings, but she told me she did not feel the same way. She wanted to remain friends, but she did not feel the same way about me. She also told me she did not want to date in high school because people move away, which I told her I understood. After a couple weeks, I was getting over her when I found out that she had started dating one of her other close guy friends. I was torn because although she was my friend and I cared for her, she told me she did not want to be dating anyone and then ended up dating someone. Although she is still my friend, I felt betrayed by her and decided not to get involved with her romantically anymore because she did not feel for me like I felt for her. She is a nice girl, but she didn’t think we were made to be together.

I had to do a project with a girl in my class, and all during our meeting she talked about the blind date she was going on and how nervous she was. I ended up doing all the work and told her that she was really no help to me. After that, she was very bitchy and threw me some nice insults before she stormed off. That night, me and my friend went on a double date with this girl he liked and her friend. The friend (who was supposed to be for me) was the girl from my class. It went on from there, we didn’t say one word to each other and my friend cant really keep conversation. On top of that, my friend tried to make conversation on how great a friend I was, and that the girl is lucky to have this opportunity with me. Then my friend payed the check and the girl my friend was interested in never called him again. I felt bad but it was probably for the best.

A couple of years ago I got out of a horrible relationship. The relationship lasted 3 years so I was pretty bummed when I was dumped. I decided to start dating again so I recruited all my friends to find me single men. This was a huge mistake, as some of my friends have completely different tastes in men than I do. I went on at least twenty dates, and they all became a blur until the very last one. My friend Cara set me up with her older brother’s roommate, Travis. She told me he was tall and had dark hair, which I’m attracted to tall, dark, and handsome men. I agreed to meet him at the Rec Plex to go ice skating. I drove up to the Rec Plex and waited for Travis by the entry as we planned. I saw someone drop this awkwardly lanky guy off. He had a baby blue scarf and a hat with the ball at the end of it. I thought, ladies and gentlemen we have a winner, as he shook my hand vigorously and mumbled “Travis”. You see Travis was nervous about the date, but he was more nervous about ice skating. He said “I’ve never been ice skating before, and I’ll end up in the emergency room. There will be blood everywhere.” I told him hew was overreacting and to try. We made it one lap and he slipped. A little girl skates right over his hand. I gasped. He was in the fetal position on the ice. We had to rush him to the hospital. The whole ride there he was crying and saying he was right. I felt terrible. When we got to the ER, the nurse asked me if I was his girlfriend, and I said “Hell no!”

I talked with a guy online for awhile and he seemed really cool. We met for a date and it soon became apparent that the vivacious and interesting man online was in reality a major bore. We sat through an awkward meal where he complained about how girls dislike him and usually don’t want to date him. He said he was anxious to find a girlfriend before his deployment overseas, so I felt majorly pressured to make a commitment. On the drive home, he complained at length about the last girl he dated (and rejected him). I felt very sorry for him, but didn’t want to date someone out of pity. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I declined. I’m sure he complained about my rejection on his next date…

Desperate Times

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August 26th, 2012 by Musicality (Westminister, CO)

After being single for some time, I decided to let a guy I had been acquaintances with take me out, despite the fact that I wasn’t physically attracted to him at all (we all know it matters). He showed up at my house in a t-shirt with stains on it, and wanted to go to a park so we could “actually talk” since a movie doesn’t really lend itself to talking. Of course, this also indicates, “I have no money to take you out.” After a bit of time sitting in a park chatting, he took me back home. Luckily, he didn’t try for a kiss or anything, but he proceeded to ask me to be his girlfriend many times over the next several weeks. I finally had to turn my “No, thanks, I’m busy” into the blunt “I don’t really like you.” He asked me out several times after that.

the other man

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March 17th, 2012 by Mavericks80 (Tyler, TX)

This young woman and I were both attracted to each other and we went on several dates. She seemed interested in me and I was interested in her. At the time I thought it may last for a while. She seemed to be having fun. Then one day out of the blue a man called my house and said that he was this young woman’s boyfriend and threatened to hurt me if I continued to see her. I was in shock. She later admitted to having another guy and laughed about it. It hurt my feelings quite badly. Our friendship and relationship subsequently ended.

Well I had this huge crush on this beautiful girl in high school. She also kind of had a thing for me! Well we decided we were too cool for the senior prom… at least I thought we decided that. Some jerk asked her to the prom and she said yes. Wow. I was so sad and angry and hormonal. After many nights of bad dreams and cold sweats, I ran to my father and asked him to rent me a Tuxedo. It must have been the day before the prom. I showed up nervous and sweaty and upset, and saw my future girlfriend dancing with this guy. I watched it for a good forty-five minutes before I ran out and took a cab home. The sad thing is that she probably would have rather been there with me, but I was too much of a baby to see it.

At Least He Paid the Bar Tab

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January 4th, 2012 by Sara (Atlanta, Georgia)

This was the worst date I ever went on. I had met this person through friends at work. He asked me out to dinner. He picked me up on time and we went downtown to a nice restaurant. After a very good dinner, some fairly interesting conversation and a few cocktails, he asked me to go to a lounge down the street, for some dancing. I said alright and we walked down to the lounge which was only a block away from the restaurant. We sat at the bar, ordered a drink and listened to the band for a bit. Some friends of his came in and waved in passing. After a while, the conversation got very personal and he was really making advances that I was not ready for, on a first date. I was not responding well. He got up and said he was going to say “hi” to his friends for a minute. After ten or fifteen minutes, I started looking around and just as I did the bartender brought me a drink and said it was from him. I thanked him and sat for another ten minutes or so, waiting. Finally, I got up and walked the direction my date had gone to see his friends. That corner of the lounge was fairly empty and they were nowhere in sight. I went back to the bar and asked the bartender how much we owed, he said the bill had been paid. So, I was stuck, downtown without a ride home. I had to call a cab, it cost me over $30.00 to get home.

Too Shy

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December 31st, 2011 by Lizzy (Columbia, MO)

One time, I met a seemingly super nice, talkative, and sweet boy on a random social networking website. We happened to be from the same town and new a few of the same people, but had never met in person. We chit chatted on the phone for a couple of weeks, and sent tons of flirty text messages. We’d pretty much agreed we were on the fast track to a real relationship, but obviously needed to meet in person first. Once we agreed upon a date and decided to meet, it couldn’t have been more awkward! We both brought friends with us to help with the awkwardness but even that didnt diffuse the tension. We hung out at a park with friends for a few hours and barely spoke or made eye contact. Then, it started pouring rain so everyone left quickly. The boy and I barely even said goodbye to one another! After that, we pretty much agreed we were WAY too shy and agreed to try again, but never met up. I was super bummed over the rejection, but it happens.

My girlfriend and I split up during the spring. We had dated for three years during college. It was a serious relationship that I thought would last forever. I wanted it to. After the split, communication between us was minimal. I would send texts and emails occasionally professing my feelings, etc. Fast forward to this past summer and things seemed liked they were looking up. We were communicating more frequently and talking about things that we could improve if we were to get back together. One weekend while she was at home with her parents (which was four hours away from my location), we planned to go camping and spend some quality time together. We were to talk about another potential future together. That weekend came and I drove the four hours to see her. I was excited at the idea of talking things out and getting back with her. The first day and night we set up camp and did things together; everything seemed great. It was like old times. The next day we were planning an activity. I took a shower and once I finished she said that I should go home. It caught me off guard as I thought things were looking up. I drove four hours home flabbergasted. She wouldn’t return my calls and I discovered she blocked me from Facebook. All I wanted was a clear explanation. I soon found out that my best friend knew that she was also seeing someone else on the side that I did not know about.